No Condom?
No Nookie! © 2016




This could be a low-tech
way to reduce poverty in
black communities



Poverty is a big deal in black America. But it just doesn’t happen. Moreover, it’s not always what those “mean-old white racists” are doing to us. The number one cause of black poverty in the United States may surprise many Blacks. It’s not a minimum wage job. It’s not necessarily the lack of a high-school diploma, though that certainly plays a role. It’s out-of-wedlock births born to the sisters.



When a mother has a baby out-of-wedlock, the odds are enormous she will be raising her baby alone with absolutely no financial help from the baby daddy. The guy who said all those sweet things leading up to the baby making somehow disappears once the baby is born.





It’s difficult enough for two-parent families to raise children. Just imagine what it must be like for a single parent raising one, two, or more children on a measly income and a marginal education. Odds are, she and her children, will be stuck in a financial hole for many, many years all because of an unplanned, out-of-wedlock birth. This is poverty, and this is how it starts.


If poverty is a real concern, prevention is what we must focus on.


The solution to this poverty trap isn’t to feel all sorry and weepy for those in this predicament. The solution is to encourage the sisters to make better choices in the guys they hook up with. It may not be what they want to hear, but it’s what they need to hear.




Condoms are a low-tech, time-proven method to prevent unplanned births. Most males, especially black males, loathe using condoms, and so do many females. They think using condoms interrupts the natural flow of intimacy. But it’s not just about them. Black males don’t have to carry the baby, and too many of them don’t stick around to support the baby. Let’s just tell it like it is.




Females not only carry the baby, but they also have to care for the baby--ALONE. So, it’s in her best interest to look out for her best interests. She can do that by being adamant about condom use before she has sex. No condom, no nookie should be her game plan. Let that be her mantra.




Here’s a tip. Females shouldn’t be too worried about the effect a “no condom, no nookie” practice will have on their guys. Trust me, if females insisted on a guy wearing a shirt and tie before intimacy, the average guy would quickly adapt and put on a shirt and tie! If females insisted on condom use, most guys would get with the program. But females have to insist.


In addition to fighting poverty in black America, condoms will reduce HIV/AIDS, unplanned pregnancies, and sexually transmitted diseases. Since females have to carry the baby and care for the baby, shouldn’t they have more say over when they have babies?